Scheduling and Exchanges
When exchanges keep going wrong, start here: one factual note, sent the same way every time, so the record builds itself. The posts below work the common versions — late pickups, unconfirmed exchanges, last-minute swaps, and the exchange that turns into an argument at the door.
What to Say When Your Co-Parent Is Always Late for Pickup
Send one factual note, the same way every time: the time pickup actually happened, the time in your agreement, and what you will keep planning for.
Read “What to Say When Your Co-Parent Is Always Late for Pickup” →“Running late again, whatever, traffic. Don't make a thing of it. They're fine, aren't they?”
“Pickup today was 5:40; the time in our agreement is 5:00. I'll keep planning for 5:00. A text when you're running behind helps me plan the kids' evening.”
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